Pussy Willow / by Megan Hollingsworth

revised post-election November 2016 and post-inauguration January 2017

My thoughts are with anyone and everyone who has experienced sexual violation and may be triggered and grieving as I was upon hearing Donald Trump say, "And when you're a star [and they're starved], they'll let you do it. You can do anything. Grab them by the pussy." (Fusion)

 

PUSSY WILLOW was written after I cooled down with a walk, during which I recalled how, as a girl, I was afraid to touch pussy willow catkins because I might be seen enjoying the sensation. The anger I experience when triggered is not directed at men like Donald Trump or my maternal step-grandfather, themselves products of the culture we (they and I and perhaps you) have been raised in. Notice in the audio recording at Fusion, no man stood up for the women or for themselves as dignified men.

"Women don’t need protection from men;

women need men to stop being predators,

enablers, and bystanders. 

Women are human beings made in the image of God*

regardless of their relationship to a man. 

This isn’t a woman’s issue;

it’s a human issue."

- Jim Wallis, 'Locker Room Talk' at Sojourners

 

Of the online discourse I've caught following the release of Donald Trump's statement, I find Jim Wallis' offering at Sojourners to be morally grounded and strong with conviction. One does not know the full emotional and spiritual consequence of sexual violation unless one has lived the experience. Even if I have suffered the same abuse under similar circumstances, actually experiencing what another experienced, and experiences as result, is neither mine to know nor to judge. Only in a degree of empathy can I relate to another's experience.

I can say this about my own experience of early childhood sexual violation and parental abandonment, the shame was all-consuming, the self-judgment and insecurity utterly depressing and catastrophic in consequence. And,  I offer this in reflection of my own healing process, women and men who are in the midst of spontaneous healing do not need empowerment circles and life coaches that require financial investment. Rather, they require the basic provisions of community* - friendship/connection, food, and shelter.

Donald Trump's words on tape offer opportunity to resolve the root and harms of misogyny together, healing the repressed sensuality that underlies this speech and behavior. 

Misogynistic behavior is one consequence of a traumatic or conflicted original mother wound. Ignoring that original wound has long resulted in the addition and perpetuation of many other insults to the human psyche. (read Bridge the Gap / ex·tinc·tion wit·ness)

Woman-shaming degrades men as much as women by way of deluding the human child. The degraded woman-shaming culture is, as Jim Wallis states, a human issue. 

#1BillionRising #RiseInSolidarity @VDay

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*soothing voice - Yoga Nidra with Sarah

*image of God - read NOT GOD for thoughts on divine image, which I see in and through everyone, the generous, empathic aspect particularly clear in elephant.

*provisions of community - read Refuge In Community

also see 'Walking Prayers' by Gina Loring @WomenintheWorld